About Me

* Wear clothes that make you feel good.
New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that's not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.

* *Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable*
If you have a romantic interest in your date (you want to be more than 'just friends,') first check out your *basic body language*
 and theirs to be sure you're sending the right message - and the other person is responding in kind. 

Next, think through your conversation. Don't just talk about school, work, sports or common topics you might discuss in a standard social situation although these can be good parts of the overall conversation if you share similar interests. 

Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.
But mean it. Don't just say, "Nice shoes, Gladys."
"Swell belt, Ralph."
Let's review.
Find something nice. If it's painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn't be out with them in the first place.

* *Manners and/or Kindness*
*Thank the other person for the date* - always, without exception. 
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
*Focus on the Other Person* - pay attention to your date. 
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies.
Be THERE.
*Listen actively to what your date says.* 
Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn.

* *Remain Calm and Interested*

Instead of just worrying about the outcome of your date and the impression you're making on the other person, remember that your overall goal really is to find out more about each other and exchange valuable information that will help both of you decide if you want to pursue a relationship. 

Remind yourself that you are not trying to simply impress the other person or convice them to like you, you really do want to find out about your date and see if you might truly be compatible.

First Date

* Wear clothes that make you feel good. New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that's not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable. * *Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable* If you have a romantic interest in your date (you want to be more than 'just friends,') first check out your *basic body language*  and theirs to be sure you're sending the right message - and the other person is responding in kind.  Next, think through your conversation. Don't just talk about school, work, sports or common topics you might discuss in a standard social situation although these can be good parts of the overall conversation if you share similar interests.  Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him. But mean it. Don't just say, "Nice shoes, Gladys." "Swell belt, Ralph." Let's review. Find something nice. If it's painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn't be out with them in the first place. * *Manners and/or Kindness* *Thank the other person for the date* - always, without exception.  Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style. *Focus on the Other Person* - pay attention to your date.  No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies. Be THERE. *Listen actively to what your date says.*  Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn. * *Remain Calm and Interested* Instead of just worrying about the outcome of your date and the impression you're making on the other person, remember that your overall goal really is to find out more about each other and exchange valuable information that will help both of you decide if you want to pursue a relationship.  Remind yourself that you are not trying to simply impress the other person or convice them to like you, you really do want to find out about your date and see if you might truly be compatible.