The way you respond to life when the circumstances are completely opposite of how you want them to be determines your personal growth. When the circumstances are not pushing you outside of your comfort zone you won't evolve, that's why a lot of people are surrounded by dysfunctional families and toxic relationships. You have to learn to be the cycle breaker, the primary lesson is to not accept anything less than you deserve. The Universe is giving you an opportunity for growth and transformation, everything that goes against you is giving you a chance to elevate your level of consciousness.